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On Casual Dating

9 Jul

Oh man. Something I’ve been wondering a lot lately is dating intentionally vs casually.

Sooo my old church was the extreme of intentionally eg don’t date unless you see it leading straight to the alter for wedding bells.

Given my newly comfortable sexuality status of bisexual… I am now faced with some hard questions. 

1) IF I don’t see myself coming out to my family (eg mom and dad/grandparents/etc)– is it actually IRRESPONSIBLE to date women?

UGH. I don’t know. I am attracted to both men and women, and I COULD be very happy with a man. And I think it is unfair to limit yourself to only intense dating if that isn’t where you’re at right now.

But I don’t want casually dating someone to equal “slut” or “disregard for feelings”. That is not true at all! It is more that I don’t have a clear picture of what the future could look like with that person, and simply want to enjoy the present. And I very much could date a woman in this way, and have a very fulfilling relationship.


2) Is it selfish? What if they agree to casual dating and someone ends up having more feelings, or feelings develop and then it is just sad times again because of the whole future thing?

What to do, what to do.